What are the traits of a "real man"

What does it mean to be a "Real Man"? Is a "Real Man" someone with big muscles who can sweep you off your feet and carry you away to a safe place when you're in danger? Is he the hansome guy who always gets the girl and never has to wait for the right time because everything falls into place or is he the "avarage joe" who makes the choices for righteousness instead of selfishness no matter what anyone else is doing and relys on God to tell him when the right time is to move out in action? I've found in our fairytail world we most often choose the guy with all the musceles or the guy who gets the girl for our models of a "Real Man" but in God's kingdom a "Real Man" is the one who will lay down his dreams and desires and no matter how strong the pull inside of him is to do them. He will take up his cross and follow Jesus even in the face of his dreams going up in smoke. That means if God said to wait for something and the opportunity is there to do whatever it is that God has you waiting for (even if it is God's will that you do that very thing.... Just not at this time)..... Do you take the opportunity to satisfy your flesh or do you stand firm in what God has said? So many times I've wished I waited for the Lord but dove in just to satisfy my selfish desire. I've heard the word of the Lord spoken clearly to me and have despised the message just because it didn't fit in my dream. I've found through my life experiance that this way only brings confusion, heartache and destruction and it doesn't only effect you it effects those whom you most care about. It's time for me to grow up and become the "Real Man" God has called me to be. Basically I need to follow the "Real Man" through the dreams He has for me because "His Dream for Me is Higher" than any of my wildest dreams and only when I start to see things His way will I become a "Real Man".

J@KE